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By The Bye -this hand wrought narrative is my covenant with the God of my understanding, thus it's subject to sincerely sought clarifications, but neither to alteration nor altercations. . My user name, "Th?ophile" [Lover Of God], honors my maternal grandfather, Th?ophile Talon [aka] L'Esp?rance [Hope]. It also recalls the addressee of Luke's Gospel -as well as his Book of Acts. . . and was the middle name of my beloved kid brother.
Although I'm really a lot older, these photos -taken by a long time acquaintance during a Tampa, Florida trip, are dated July 10, 2008. "Would You Catch A Falling Star?"
I'd like to meet: A forward-looking, self-posessed and affectionate woman, youthful and charming, tallish, svelte, attractive. A person generous in spirit, free of guile and deceit, a mistress of her home. A lady mindful of health care concerns and attentive to her own well-being -and that of her immediate family. One who is self-mobilized in her recreations and personal life -spiritually, professionally, socially, and as an intimate marriage partner and dedicated co-parent for the decades immediately ahead. My interest is that she demonstrates a well-fortified interior life of ardent prayer and an overcoming will to be an exemplary servant to humanity in each of her chosen endeavors. "Comonamyhouse!"
About me: Personal honesty became a pain-filled recurrent half-conscious survival decision -made amidst a confused swirl of frozen feelings emotional void truth avoidance and an absent-minded disregard for prevailing Great Depression socioeconomic stress, a family mindset that continued throughout early adulthood. This debilitating undertow enveloped my timidity, withdrawal and spirit-numbing scholastic failures and social ineptitude from school's first moments. I eventually learned that in speaking my truth I'm grounded as on firm bedrock, able to trust people (or not) on sight, empowered to attentively listen as their own personal truth unfolds during our dialog. My spontaneous candor in engaging with persons of any circumstance or age -infancy onward, opens for me the floodgate to the richness of deepened interpersonal intimacy as its image is conveyed through my personally re-living my experiences of Jesus Christ.
Gruff at times, polite, diplomatic as needed, and straight-forward, I'm quickly fun-loving and at ease among those people easily disposed to infectious friendliness. Self-monitoring allows me some margin for auto-correction. In leadership I act with frankness, conviction and ardor -hard-won character developments. That's me as an everyday person, within and beyond cherished family activities, into friendships, pastoral ministry, social and professional activities, while traveling, and during relaxed neighborhood chats.
I thoroughly enjoy the droll and am happy to live in the absence of cat-and-mouse antics -so transparent openness means exactly that for me. My primary task in life, as revealed in the inner reaches of my being, is carrying out God's Will. My responses to directed questions concerning leadership, family life values and my vision of family dynamics: "Am I a lover of the soul? Indeed, to everyone present. "A protector? Until my dying breath!? "A provider? Resourcefully. "A friend? Profoundly so. "A listener? To the cadence of one's footfalls, gestures and breathing. A person's laughter, giggles, gasps of pleasure, pain or delight. . . to their sighs, sobs, tears -the unspoken wish to be held, cuddled [I prefer snuggles] and cherished. And to silent pleas for inclusion, to understand, to be heard, acknowledged, appreciated . . and to find one's innermost being accepted. . . . in deed, beloved, beheld of man. . . ", which speaks to the living substance of husbandry, the stewardship of life in this our planet earth's environment -of a vibrant virility -of a profound manhood in the grand sense of each of Jesus' graphic, often heart-rending, acts, utterances, parables and illustrations -including numerous instances of his forthright gender interplay.
From a south coastal Boston (Massachusetts) suburb, I was the middle child (of five) in a nowadays long-established family of home builders. Fluent in English, I now mostly live in the latterly-acquired French of my Qu?bec and European (including elements also of Irish, Arcadian and Basque) ancestors. ["K-bec" (as in "Kmart") is the native word for the Saint Lawrence Seaway and River's sudden narrowing -"Detroit" (as in Michigan) in French, "The Narrows" (in NYC, Virginia, etc. ) in English. Correspondingly, "Canada" is simply what today we call "its suburbs". Which sociologically often is still very true!] My 1954 BS is in United States Naval Science, Applied Navigational Astronomy, Oceanic Ship Guidance and Maneuvering, plus Merchent Vessel Cargo Distribution and Handling - all to get us and our cargo safely where we're going!
I'd scribbled insightful notes from published pastoral councilor Howard Clinebell that succinctly clarify much of the troubled life experiences I was exposed to from infancy. They describe health-fulfilling dynamics for living that I continually seek to grow into. Regrettably many of us can not recognize or infrequently experience these love-expressing factors as being cherished and valorized in the world that enfolds our daily lives:
"Love is the experience of knowing that another person cares -deeply, warmly, acceptingly and dependably; this is the most indispensable need of any human being - to which all others are tributaries. . . For certain fortunate people there is something which transcends all classifications of behavior -that something is awareness. . . -something that rises above the programing of the past -that something is spontaneity. . . -something that is more rewarding than games -that something is intimacy.
"But all three -[awareness, sponteniety and intimacy] -of these may be frightening -even perilous, to the unprepared. . . [each becomes] an inner experience, [one that is vitally] necessary for personal growth [to occur] and [each person's] fulfilling social empowerment. "
For me such an achievement approaches -Jesus' promised "life more abundant". It is also the paint-strewn, slippery, rickety ol' wooden step ladder that I try (and continually re-begin) to climb, as human -masculine -child of God, family man, and pastoral minister.
I consider cats foremost, then dogs, as essential household companions, without being ritualistic preoccupations -more like endearing family guests who mind their manners. I do neither shadow- nor chatter-boxing. I look forward to reading and responding to hugs/halos/emails -until need indicates otherwise.
My desire for yourself -and for all who enfold you in their concerns, prayers, love and affections -is Godspeed in Christ Jesus!