I've spent a lifetime trying to be what other people want -- the ideal daughter, the ideal wife, the ideal mother, the ideal employee, etc. And I've finally, at the ripe old age of 36, come to the realization that I will spend the rest of my life trying to be what I want and who I am and most importantly, who God sees me to be. I want to find someone who is at the same place -- happy with themselves, anxious to grow along the path that God has for them. I try to see not the outside packaging but the internal man and ask, no expect, the same in return. No one should look at another human and see the things they wish were there -- God has made each of us exactly as He wants -- who are we humans to judge?