I tend to be rather shy. I'm not the girl that talks nonstop where you can't get a word in edgewise. I'm an attentive listener. When I'm in a room full of people I don't know, I won't necessarily be out there mingling. But, I think that's why I've always surrounded myself with friends that are the opposite. If you're shy, too, that's ok, but it would be nice to meet a man who is a bit more on the outgoing side without being obnoxious or loud. I'm seeking a spiritual leader. I don't have patience for men who are sarcastic, arrogant, or selfish. It's also important that you're fiscally responsible. My checkbook is balanced to the penny and I'm not one of those women you'll find out shopping every weekend. Being college educated and a member of Mensa, it's important that the man I meet be intelligent, but not a total dork. I went to a few Mensa meetings and I can tell you I have a difficult time relating to those people. I guess I'm one of the "dumber" Mensans.