Hello;I'm the type of guy like your mom's apple pie not tough as cowhide nor poison as lye but someone you can taste and not cry for fear your going to die meeting your maker in the sky and that is not a lie a promise you can buy. You can let your guard down and wear a pretty gown when I'm in town cause I don't play around except as a clown that does not want to frown wearing a cap like a crown seeing goodness all around though evil seems to abound. Someone good like apple pie generally is left to last and never chosen first. I am the Monastery Monk and know to some as the WestsideMonk. FRIENDSHIP: Generally I am in my own little world where many things are routine. I eat, sleep and shop like any normal person. When time permits I ride a bike on a bike trail, visit flea markets and art shows, go to the library, study, watch educational programs on TV, participate in board games with friends once in awhile if the situation permits, plant a few plants, hike, go on trips to the beach in order to swim or leave some foot prints in the sand at dusk. In other words do interesting things that might come up. I do many things like the majority in order to survive but down deep there runs a thread of non-conformity. I have little interest in programmed events for the general public such as tours or tourist trap type of places. The general public being thought of as those who do not, will not or cannot think on their own. People are met as I go out and about but most are just few minute acquaintances or what I call sound bite people where there is no real meaningful or loyal connection. Doctors, dentists, professionals, secretaries, store cashiers, internet people and even some neighbors fit in this category of friendly but not true friend type of people. If there is a need or injustice they are the type that say see the professionals. The problem is many times the professionals are useless or create problems. Everyone is just a number. Today people are profiled and well understood psychologically by educators, merchandisers, credit card companies, government and people of power as just another number to be used, controlled and manipulated whether a sanitation worker or a so called professional. I do not like being just a number. You do not make good friends over night. In fact real friends are few and far between and generally made early in life. From what I am seeing advertising on a dating service will not guarantee or result in instant friendship like I originally was in error thought. I know a lot of people do much chatting on the web but I am not sure if real friendship of any kind is ever the end result. Most are only a user name with no real identity where a few contacts can be make for a high and then forgotten. I am not setup for or done any chat yet. Maybe I am too serious minded of a person for just chat. Actually I can't comment on the world of chat not having participated. WHY STILL SINGLE? When younger I needed someone as a companion and helpmate to make headway in life. Never seemed to be at the right place at the right time to meet someone truly compatible. I am sure immaturity; fear of intimacy, worrying about being financially acceptable and job dedication took its toll in not getting married early in life. I have always looked at life and living as a serious business. I actually dated very little but opted for trying to finding someone where I frequented on a regular basis such as a job or church associations where an individual could be seen and experienced first as a friend. I found no one where friendship, interests, goals, trust and attraction intersected. Many of the women I liked were for the most part taken. My longest running job required constant travel and dedication resulting in no friendships. Not everyone finds a helpmate in life. Like with musical chairs someone is left standing. IN REGARDS TO THE MARRIAGE ISSUE - I think many people marry but not necessarily to a true soul mate or someone they down deep feel is right. They go strictly for looks, hormonal drive or who comes first that has a good job. Years later they find something missing whether real or imagined. Some get out while others just endure the relationship to the end. I just endured life without someone special. It has had its good and bad points. I think more bad than good. I can see where being single in my case has resulted in less accomplishments and financial gain. Statistics show that also for those single. There is some real truth in Ecclesiastes 4:8-12 which states, "It is one who is by himself, without a second, and without son or brother; but there is no end to all his work, and he has never enough of wealth. For whom, then, am I working and keeping myself from pleasure? This again is to no purpose, and a bitter work. Two are better than one, because they have a good reward for their work. And if one has a fall, the other will give him a hand; but unhappy is the man who is by himself, because he has no helper. So again, if two are sleeping together they are warm, but how may one be warm by himself? And two attacked by one would be safe, and three cords twisted together are not quickly broken. " I had dreams but most did not come true. In some ways I am still in a type of holding pattern not sure where to go next strange, as that may seem even though health, ageing and finances will ultimately dictate my destiny as it does everyone else's. Sometimes because of being immature and misguided by others early on you never find what could be your true rewarding direction in life. How you start out, travel and whom you travel with can make for a success, mundane existence or failure in life. Those seeking unusual adventures whether it is climbing the corporate ladder or Mt Everest to the peak generally have a special loved one buried in their heart that permits their endeavor and need for survival if over taken by the dangers of man or nature. Traveling with God in your heart is good and some can do their own thing alone but most still need someone unique to him or herself. Never is it good that man be alone. Everyone wants to be loved by someone but one cannot love just everyone who comes into his or her life. If they could then there would not be unrest, loneliness, unhappiness or divorce. When it comes to marriage people require a certain personality; chemistry and equal mental mix to guarantee love and loyalty. Plain friendship requirements vary and are less stringent than those for marriage. I could have stated in this section that I am a single never married individual being without past intimate physical connections in life. I also could have elaborated on the fact I prefer to eat healthy, like to travel, see plays, go out to dinner once in a while or arrange plants in a garden but felt it would be more advantageous to present some of my inter thoughts. A few of these given thoughts and feelings are what I am really about anyway. MORE ON WHO I AM- I am made in the image of God, grandparents, mother and dad. I am tall and thin being part German (Austria - Grandfather) , Swiss (Grandmother) , Swedish - (Father's side) . Born on August 9th Conservative and frugal by nature. I am single and never been married. No intimate relationships. Interests are biking, hiking, camping, fishing, photography, roller-skating, computer, reading, all types of music, indoor games, landscaping, educational programs, love stories like seen in some Hallmark Hall of Fame movies etc. I definitely am adventurous and exploration minded. I like the outdoors like a wild horse likes the prairie. Someday I would like to move to the country and live simple preferably with someone special but that to is just a dream. I would not mind going to and staying at a few places in an older RV. Thinking about full time. Then I can act like a kid in deserts, mountains and who knows where. Nothing like seeing wild flowers, rich green forest growth, rapid moving streams, lakes and wild life. I also like to visit flea markets, museums and some sites in big cities for educational purposes. I prefer eating healthy. I am very aware of the carcinogens and chemicals in food and the environment in today's world and would like some how to avoid it all. Could live as a vegetarian. Drink at the springs of living water.