I'm a christain man, my heavenly father comes first in my life and then my mate or partner. I haven't always been a christain, but a good person in general. Thru my life I have "learned" many challenging things about love and marriage. But becoming a christain has taught me more about love and marriage and communication than I would have ever learned on my own. So God's unconditional love is given to me freely, and from me to my partner and family also freely.