I thought I would write a blog, to share my ideas on relationships. . . . I have had, and most of the people I know have, what I consider a controlling type of relationship. It seems to me that one partner in the relationship holds the power. By this I mean that they kind of make the rules (I hate to say it, but it seems like its mostly the women) . I find this confusing, and I seem to have my own idea of how a relationship should work. . . . it goes something like this. Two people are living their lives and have their own friends and activities, work, etc. Then these two people meet and fall madly in love and get married. Now it seems to me that they are two separate entities before the marriage, but when they get married they seem to morph into one (whichever is the controlling one) . I believe that when getting married, the two people should maintain their lives independent of each other and create a third life or entity, which is the marriage relationship. Why does marriage somehow become a dictatorship, instead of a partnership? I think if my husband (I don't have one, but if I did) wanted to go play golf, then he should go play golf. . . . why is that bad? I hear women say all the time, "I don't let him do it". . . . . WHY?????? I don't get it. . . . If you love him and he feels happy doing it then, what is the problem. As his wife, I would want him to be happy, wouldn't I? I'm sure that if he is happy, I am going to be happier too???? Isn't that what love is? Am I way off here? Maybe I'm from some other planet, or a mutant that was supposed to be on Venus, but ended up on Mars? I would love some feedback. . . . . . Well that is enough of my opinion. I guess I am more secure than most and not that needy, or feel I have to boss someone around all the time. . . . . if your interested read on for more personal info. . . . . . I am employed as a professional in Sales, I have a BFA and am also an artist. I also own a company designing and mfg. products for the dog industry. I am a feminine woman with a mix of tomboy and I move easily between the two. I would like to meet a man with integrity, (are there any left?) I have a great sense of humor, and a love of children and animals. I do transport and fundraising for dog rescue. I am a Christian and would love to meet same. My experience on dating sites has been anything but successful. . . . meeting a man who actually has a job, and some morals would be nice. Where are you?