Please forgive me if I haven't written you back yet. There are some very sweet and thoughtful males on this site. I am very appreciative and honored by the interest and time they've taken to write; however, I am also a bit overwhelmed at the thought of responding to the 50 messages I need to respond to since registering with this site a few days ago. I am hoping to be blessed by meeting an authentic Christ-centered Christian male between the age of 38 to 49 that I am also attracted to who wants a mate that will be his co-pilot through life as God guides the plane. He would put God first in his life, our marriage second and be the leader of our family. I also would like to have children if that is God's will. A male that I would be attracted to would be very intelligent, capable of deep thought at one end of the spectrum and able to jump on the bed and pound me with pillows and silliness at the other end with wittiness, playfulness and a sense of humor. He must be kind, stable/mentally healthy, empathetic, capable of looking at himself, apologizing and working to not keep repeating the mistake when he is told or realizes he has hurt someone, compassionate, passionate and have that rare quality that goes even deeper than integrity of doing what is good and honorable even when no one but God is seeing his actions; for example: returning too much money he was given back at a store, rescuing a kitten on the side of the road, etc. . . I am especially attracted to males with energy and purpose that are hard working but not workaholics who stand up for what they believe in but do it in a respectful and loving way. Physically, since I am somewhat tall, I find that I am not attracted to a male unless he is at least 5ཇ" tall and physically fit. I find humongous muscles obnoxious but a healthy, proportioned body with fit muscles that look like they didn't come from steroids are attractive. I am only attracted to white men. I am most attracted to men with brown or black hair that are educated with advanced degrees such as Masters or Doctorate (since I have advanced degrees), are active, have their own interests, are affectionate, a bit adventurous, have been a Christian for some time and who love animals. If a male doesn't love animals I am definitely not the girl for him as I have a real heart for them! I have 15 dogs and 25 cats that live with me in my house. Just kidding!! No. I have one amazing 1 yr. old Pyrenees and a couple of amazing cats. I am turned off by men who spend more time than me on their hair, wear cologne that is so strong it causes me to become nauseous, wear jewelry other than a school ring, drive cars to impress, have tatoos unless it is just a small one somewhere not too obvious, and I prefer fresh faces with no facial hair. Also, most importantly, you can't be perfect because I'm not. Everyone is an awesome, unique and beautiful creation because God made us all. These are just things that I know that I am and am not attracted to in a male due to my life experiences and the way that God made me with my own particular preferences. The inner qualities I have listed above are either who I am or try to be. I am very creative, love things that are classic as well as antiques, am not interested in living in a mansion, having fancy cars or being rich but would be most happy with a really nice SUV and an adorable, cozy cottage with lots of interesting nooks and crannies and a big fireplace to cuddle up with my sweetie in front of. I really look forward to taking good care of my husband and making him feel loved. I would rather be wise and save some money, stay out of debt and use whatever we would feel God would show us to share to help others in need. I believe we take so many blessings for granted in this life and we don't take enough time to enjoy many of the things that God has given us that are either free or don't cost a lot. What good are possessions if you don't have love and peace to go with them? I mean really, can you imagine the kind of passionate love two sincere Christians would experience where both were sincerely obeying and staying open to God daily and were also connected through the bond of Christ? They could give love to each other openly with no guilt and no baggage. If you believe after reading the above that you might be a lot like what I have described then I hope you will write. A.