Looking for an old fashioned guy with old fashioned values and a good head on his shoulders. Serving the Lord must be his priority. I believe a husband should honor his lady and a lady should respect and obey her husband. I also believe a good balance of humor vs. responsible behavior imperative for a good relationship. And mutual respect goes a long way. IntroductionI'm looking for someone giving, forgiving and real. I have picked all the wrong men in the past, mostly because they pretended to be something they weren't. . . Christian. I have found out, the hard way, there is only one way to peace and it is not on the road most traveled. I have also found that "trust" is the one luxury I can't afford to live without. I'm looking for a competitive man that would like to challenge me in an endless game of "Who Can Out-Serve Who?". A man that can challenge me to better myself and believes in me. . . protects me and cares for me. . . someone I can laugh with. . . someone to love and serve in the manner God intended. Sounds like a lot, but it is no less than we should all search endlessly for instead of settling. God wants that for us. . . so it should be obtainable. I know you're out there, I just have to find you. . . or let you find me. God bless you all and I hope everyone finds who they are needing. . . not just who they are looking for. May you all find peace with that special someone someday soon. Basic Information:Gender: Female Location: Just moved from Omaha. . . I now attend MVCF in San Diego. . . Love Pastor Leo Age: 45 Looking For: Friends and to Marry to my best one. About Me:Height: 6' 0" (182 cm) Build: Average Hair: Light Brown with lots of auburn in it. Eyes: Smiling, trusting and Hazel Relationship Status: Divorced -- brace yourself-- 2wice. I guess I just love 'em and leave 'em. (that's a joke. . circumstances in either case were not funny)About Children: I have kids and I would like more if my clock doesn't strike. . . but its all debatable and depends on what my other half wants. Children: 2 young men, 19 and 21 I live and breathe for them. Children home: 1 and he won't leave(lol), but I don't really mind. . . he can stay till doomsday is what I'm thinking, but I do want him to find his own way in life someday soon, when he's ready and no sooner. . . besides, I wouldn't have any company if he left right now(to be honest, which is a good deal of why he won't leave):). Drinking: On occasion Denomination: Lutheran Education: Some College Field of Work: Waitress/bartender at the local Bar and Grill. . . Think "Alice"'s 'Mel's Diner' meets "Dukes of Hazard"'s 'Boar's Nest' Ethnicity: Caucasian / White Languages Spoken: English and a little Spanish. . . enough to get me in trouble or lost. . . and it seems like its going to come in handy in our country's future. Fun Facts Self-description: Laughs and plays well with others Music preferences: Classical, Country/Western, Movie Soundtracks, Oldies, Pop/Top 40, Religious Music, Rock n Roll, Soft Rock Favorite bands and musicians: Just about everything including: Sinatra, Martin, Beatles, Manilow, Francisco, Straight, Day, etc. Movies: Action/Adventure, Comedy, Drama, Musical, Mystery, Romance, Suspense/Thriller Favorite movies and actors: Phantom of the Opera, Pure Country and For Richer for Poorer and most anything they are playing on Turner Classic Movies . . . Jimmy Stewart, Doris Day, Dustin Hoffman, Cary Grant Favorite TV shows: Seinfeld, King of Queens and Cold Case Files Outdoor activity: Laughing, sitting on a porch swing watching the sunset and feeling the breeze, Picnics, Splashing around in puddles during the rain like Gene Kelly, Camping/Hiking, Traveling/Sightseeing, baseball/football. Indoor activity: Laughing, Art, Charity/Volunteering, Crafts, Dancing(especially slow dancing at a piano bar or Country dancing: swing, two-step and line dancing), Games, puzzles, abstract thought, healthy debate, Movies/TV, Music, Opera/Theater, Politics, Reading, Restaurants, Shopping, Sports My idea of a great trip: Anywhere with a view of Mtns, Lights, Ocean, Sunset, Stars with someone that appreciates the same. Food: American, Barbeque, Chinese, Mexican, Seafood, Southwestern, Spanish. . . God blessed us with the bovine to provide us with my two favorites a big slab of med/rare beef and a tall glass of milk. Favorite restaurants: Anyplace with good Surf and TurfPolitics: Ultra Conservative Schools attended: Will C. Crawford High School in San Diego, Christ College Irvine, Metro Community College in Omaha Timeliness: I am usually a little late As for fashion: I don't need advice, I fit in anywhere. . . I won't embarass you, wherever we go. . . job sight or holy sight, ballroom or ballfield! Match Preferences: Age Between 40 and 50 years old Distance: Not the worst obstacle people in love could tackle. Height: Between 6' 1" (185 cm) and 7' 6" (228 cm). . I'd really like to wear heels around you sometime and don't want to look anywhere but up to you and up at you. Denomination: Would prefer another Lutheran such as myself, but not vital. Luther protested against his own Catholic church for many reasons and alot of those reasons still exist, so if you are Catholic, prepare for serious, scathing debate with me right off(no offense, but might as well give you heads up) Ethnicity: Caucasian / White, Other Drinking: Never, Rarely, On occasion Essays;What I'd like to do on a first date. . . Go to the park and swing on the swings. Love that. Everybody always says they want to get coffee on a first date. So, I guess, we could get all hopped up on caffeine first. . . and THEN we could go swing on the swings till the caffeine high dissipated and we could talk like calm people again. Maybe go walk on the beach, put our feet in the water off the edge of America. Nice to feel the sand between your toes and feeling the cool water run over your feet. . . being a waitress, I can appreciate this simple act much more than I used to. My past relationships have taught me. . . I've learned I can live anywhere and be happy with the right person. I have lived in Massachusetts, Ohio, California, Colorado, Alabama and Nebraska. I have lived in the mountains, desert, city and country. As much as I love San Diego and its endless possibilities for entertainment. I have realized even the most beautiful of places aren't so great without someone to love. The mountains. . . beautiful, lots of trees, fresh air and the views. . . wow! I just love a "white Christmas" and I have had some skiing experience. . . although I think just enough to get me to the bottom of the bunny slope upright. Cuddling in front of a fireplace on a cold night. . . is always as romantic as it is in the movies. The desert. . . warm and sunny. . . the dry air and low humidity are great and your wardrobe doesn't need to be near as big as living anywhere else. The city. . . so many choices of things to do. Hard to get bored and you are always near a gas station. . . ha haThe country. . . quiet and friendly. Lying on a hammock, under the trees, listening to the birds and feeling the breeze is so-o relaxing. . . as a matter of fact, I think its required. I just love the trees. So, although San Diego offers all these places in one PLUS the ocean. . . relocating doesn't scare me at all. Being with Mr. Right would make any place paradise. To me, being a Christian means. . . Striving everyday to know and understand God's nature, will, creations and love more and more everyday. Treating everyone with respect and empathy. Putting others before me. Sacrificing for the sake of the greater good. In five years, I see myself. . . I am going to be The President of the United States. . . . I hear anyone can do it. So, I figure I'll give that a shot for a while. Meet a lot of people, travel, lots of benefits, free food, everybody has an opinion about what you believe. . . its a lot like being Lutheran. . . I'm thinkin'. . . . . . . except that they pay you. My favorite Bible passage is. . . First one that comes to mind. . . "Jesus wept. " It reminds me He does know what it is like to be human and hurt for others as well as for Himself. He experienced loss and heartache. "He created man in His own image" He has a sense of humor too. "Observe the lilies of the field. . . . " He cares for our happiness and answers all our prayers. . . even when it doesn't feel like it out there in the cruel world, its nice to know He sees and He is working on it and us. He loves me more and forgives me more than I do my own sons. . . and that is truly comforting to know. "Your body is the temple of God" for I know He is not only beside me, but in me as well, going where ever I go. Watching, protecting and loving me every step I take. "Be still and know that I am God" Sometimes we need to remind ourselves that we aren't God, He is. . . so let Him do the leading stop trying to run the show when it isn't going your way or ask so many questions as to His reasoning. "God is a just God" Answers all the questions like what happens to the unbaptized babies, people that were good people, but didn't go to church or believed in Buddha or why do bad things happen to good people? The handicapped etc. God is just. . . whatever He decides to do with all of us will assuredly be "Just" Justice dealt with love, understanding and fairness on a case by case basis. God always has the advantage of knowing men's hearts, which would make any judge more just and fair. I only wish I had this ability. . . we could know those that would hurt us from a distance, instead of learning the hard way, up close. "For God so loved the world. . . . " for obvious reasons. . . we have recited it countless times, but its meaning never gets old. "Blessed assurance" and validation that being Christian is not as hollow an act or unrewarding as so many unbelievers like to point us out and laugh at the "doormats". We are not what we seem any more than they are very smart. . The whole Bible is quotable. . . because its all true. One final thing I'd like to mention. . . EVERYBODY makes mistakes, sometimes big ones and surely lots of small ones. "Forgive us our trespasses as we forgive those who trespass against us". . . try to remember that as much as we like to put labels on people, because we try to make the world more understandable by categorizing. It is still judging. We are to judge for ourselves the people we choose to surround ourselves with. . . NOT judge the people around us as to who is worthy or unworthy of God's forgiveness and love. . . only God knows men's hearts. Its easier to SAY you are Christian than to live by the definition. I've known many a church-goer who were only that and stole pieces of my life, I'll never get back. Some of the craftiest of wolves disguise themselves as sheep to prey amongst us. . . seeking to devour. "Be wise as foxes and gentle as doves" when discerning one from the other. You'd be surprised how many excellent looking sheep are really wolves underneath all that fluff. God bless us and use us as a blessing to others in all we do and say. "Doormats" of the world unite!. . . and know that the pain we endure for His name's sake today, results in everlasting life. . . tomorrow.