What I'd like to do on a first date. . . I'd like to both agree on something fun to do. How about going for a stroll in the park and talking? What about going putt-putt golfing and then checking out a flea market? What about a ball game or a museum?The whole dinner and movie thing is played out. How the heck can you talk to each other with it so loud and dark, anyways. Let's get creative and have a fun time. I would like to get to know the person and move things slowly (sometimes it can be easy to want to move at warp speed in this world) . I'm not going to try and sleep with someone or fall in love on the first date. I want to do things the right way---God's way!! I am someone who wants to get married and I don't like to play games with people. I am a pretty creative guy who is willing to integrate what I can in making a long-distance relationship or any relationship work. You beautiful women of God at least deserve that from guys who contact you. Long-distance relationships can be tough and be a lot of pressure (depending on the mileage, of course) . Everyone, pray before you leap. My past relationships have taught me. . . Five hard knocks that relationships have taught me:1. ) Never have sex before marriage. More goes into it than just physical stuff. I made that mistake before I was saved five years ago and have since committed myself to celibacy. Thank God for His grace. 2. ) Shacking up and playing house is wrong. Even if you aren't dating, you are setting yourself up for a fall. The spirit is willing, but the flesh can certainly be weak. 3. ) Get to know each other first before you profess your love for them. I believe in the whole soul mate thing, but being in a relationship does not mean you will be 100% compatible. It's about taking the good in each other and also filling in the parts that may not be as strong, with each others help. Marriage should be a team effort, not a dictatorship. 4. ) Never be so into a relationship (friends or otherwise) that you push your family out of the picture. I am a renewed family man and they are important (especially being the only born-again believer in my immediate family-- that I know of) . 5. ) Being verbally or physically abusive to someone is not cool. I treat people with love and respect and expect the same. Also Very Important: IF JESUS is not FIRST in the relationship---it won't work. I've witnessed that a few times from other Christian friends who were married. To me, being a Christian means. . . HAVING a relationship with Jesus Christ. I have not been a Christian for very long (I was Born-Again 5 years ago) and don't know everything, but I do know that without Jesus, I am doomed. I want to serve Him in full-time ministry one day so I am careful with what I do and who I associate with, but at the same time, if I never venture outside my door to meet people, how will they ever know Christ. People, knowing Jesus is not about Religion, it's about Relationship--- that's something the world needs to know. I have a real passion to minister to people with mental health issues and really enjoy the job I do. I am a work in progress, but definitely want to be used by Him. In five years, I see myself As one of my favorite scriptures says in James 4:13-17 (King James Version) : 13 Go to now, ye that say, To day or to morrow we will go into such a city, and continue there a year, and buy and sell, and get gain: 14 Whereas ye know not what shall be on the morrow. For what is your life? It is even a vapor, that appeareth for a little time, and then vanisheth away. 15 For that ye ought to say, If the Lord will, we shall live, and do this, or that. 16 But now ye rejoice in your boastings: all such rejoicing is evil. 17 Therefore to him that knoweth to do good, and doeth it not, to him it is sin. I hope to have a full-time permanent job teaching, counseling or doing something I enjoy in full-time ministry. **I was actually accepted into a one-year Graduate School program at SUNY Potsdam in Elementary Education. I was actually . 20 under the cut-off for the entry GPA and by faith I applied anyways!! God Will make a way, even when there is no way. ** Now I just need the financial part taken care of. LOL! Please pray for me. I'd also like to have a few kids and a loving relationship with my wife. I know I will make a great husband and any Woman of God would be blessed to have me. I hope to have a full-time job doing something I like or serving as a Pastor. I would like to attend a Bible college. I'm just trusting the Lord by faith. I would like to start a not-for -profit outreach for children with mental health issues and their families called "The Lion's Heart. " I have some other ideas too and would love to meet someone who is ambitious about being used by God too. I think it would be awesome to have a Godly family and minister across the country in an RV during school breaks or have a musical act as a family. I've seen a few missionary families who are all involved in one way or another and it is amazing. I have good ideas, just have trouble carrying them out. I guess that's why we have Helpmates--LOL. My favorite Bible passage is. . . "I can do ALL things through Christ who strengthens me. "--Philippians 4:13-Isaiah 40:31--Jeremiah 3:1- Ephesians chapter 6 is my favorite chapter in the Bible and John chapters 14-16 are my favorite three chapters in a row. ** I just recently listened to this awesome teaching series on tape by Jerry Falwell about the entire Book of Proverbs. It was great stuff and it is amazing that since 1982 (when it was recorded) how so little has changed in the world. I am also reading a book call "If You Shall Ask" about prayer by Oswald Chambers. Terrific book!!** One final thing I'd like to mention. . . Some factoids about me:1. ) Ogdensburg, NY is a small-town of about 10, 000 people on the Canadian border across from Prescott. I have some relatives that live in Windsor and Chatam. 2. ) I was born in a hot-pink hospital in Hawaii. 3. ) I am a romantic guy when given the opportunity and like to do a lot of things for my woman. 4. ) I am involved in a children's outreach on Saturdays and also enjoy ministering to people with mental health issues. I am having a voter registration drive at work and helped 15 clients register (people with mental illness feel like their voices don't count-- they do) . 5. ) I am a little shy at first, but when I get comfortable, I really enjoy chatting. 6. ) I don't drink anymore and have no urge to do the bar-hopping scene. 7. ) I would like to do a children's book and get some poetry published some day. If you like kids and are creative, I'm your guy. 8. ) I am an avid baseball fan (go Yankees and Cubbies) . I'd love to visit all the MLB ballparks. So far I have been to Yankee Stadium, Fenway Park, and Olympic Stadium (former home of the Montreal Expos-- now the Washington Nationals) . Baseball may have been corrupted by steroids, HGH, overpaid crybabies, and other things but there is still an innocence about it (just watch kids play it and you will see what I mean) . The physics of the game are also incredible. 8. ) I am slowly learning to play the guitar and would like to put some worship songs I wrote to music. I need help!9. ) I would like to go on a Missions Trip one day. 10. ) I currently live with my Mom and dog Sadie (she's a cool dog) . I'm helping my Mom out with finances and trying to put money away. With times the way they are in the U. S. A. , I see nothing taboo about that. It's only temporary. I am also a Deacon at my church and do the sound booth (I really enjoy putting the lyrics on the overhead during worship and making CD's of the Sermons) . I am also a "custodian" at the church and take a lot of pride in what I do. We have some great outreaches, but I wish we were more involved in evangelism in Ogdensburg (hopefully soon) . It is a hurting place. I also get together with about 10-15 guys from a local church for Sunday Night Football and a half-time devotional (it's a good time) . It is a liberating feeling to know that I can have fun with people without getting drunk, chasing after women, and swearing profusely like a sailor. I think that's one of the ways Jesus meant us to be when He said for us to "Be in the world, but Not of the world. " How we carry ourselves reflects on Him. There are so many wonderful Godly women on this site and I hope the Lord bless you abundantly!!