I've been out of the dating game for a looong time now. I guess this is just a way of trying to get back into it. I'm a good guy with a lot of ambition in my career. I'm confident in my values and need to know that the woman I'm with is confident in hers as well. It is also important for her to be fairly independent enjoying time with her own friends while I have time hanging out with the guys. Saying this, I do believe a guy should spoil a woman with affection. Selfish relationships never work.