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I'm active in a Spirit-filled Non-Denominational church as part of the dance ministry and intercessory team. Fellowship with other believers is one of my greatest joys in life, as is time spent in worship. I also really enjoy studying and discussing the Word, especially with someone who knows more than I do, because my passion is to grow and learn.
Compassion is probably my strongest trait. I especially love children and elderly people, but I am often overcome with an intense love for people I have only just met - as though they are close members of my family. I am not quite sure of the reason why this happens, but I pray for those that inspire that feeling in me.
I'm passionate about life. I can be laid back, but I love doing SO many things. Creative expression (photography, painting, interior decor, web design, and experimental cooking). Challenges, learning new things and exploring - puzzles, travel, and adventure. I enjoy conversation during long walks through the countryside or on the beach, fellowship with brothers and sisters in Christ, games. I like to be active - dancing, exercise, horseback riding, water sports, and more. I like funny movies or those with a surprising plot, a good read. I enjoy visiting interesting places - anything from antique stores to public gardens, museums to international markets, art galleries to historic sites, and many more. Pretty much if you name it, I'm there. (smile) The most important characteristic I am seeking in another person is a real devotion to the Lord and a level of spiritual maturity. Spiritual compatibility is important, so our beliefs need to be similar.
I desire a husband who understands his leadership role and is willing to accept that responsibility. Honesty is important too. Not only the words we speak, but also in being who we really are, and walking out our faith. I value compassion and kindness in a partner, and an affectionate nature (willing to give and receive). A little romance is always nice too! I would appreciate a man who is a gentleman, because I'm a little old fashioned. I would like a chance to "spoil" him sometimes too. (smile)
While I want a marriage with Christ at the center, it is also important that it is based on trust and mutual respect. Each partner should accept the other, with neither feeling that they always have to "measure up. " I don't believe in tearing a man down in any way; instead I would love to support my husband and stand behind everything he is and does. I enjoy a sense of humor, but don't feel like you have to be a professional comedian! I especially appreciate a man who is passionately able to enjoy life. Ideally we can both do so in an atmosphere of relaxed freedom between ourselves. I realize that my reasons for hoping to marry have changed, but I have been thinking about how these desires line up with God's will. Why do I hope to marry? For my own selfish reasons? Or for reasons aligned with God's will?
I admit when my thoughts first turned to marriage it was mostly for myself. I hoped to have companionship, someone to share life with, have fun, and enjoy those aspects of marriage I'm sure we all want to enjoy. There's nothing strange or wrong about desiring those things, but I don't think it's the best reason to marry. Essentially, those are selfish reasons. Then God let me learn how much pleasure it brings me to BE a helpmeet (in a limited sense). I found I enjoy doing things for a man - cooking for him, taking care of chores, easing his burden. That became another reason - it gave me a sense of fulfillment. A servant's heart is a good thing, and less selfish. But it's still a limiting reason.
I now realize what I miss most is a companion in my spiritual walk. I miss studying the Word together, praying with someone, and having him pray for me. I want someone to bring things to my attention spiritually, and even offer gentle correction if needed. I desire a husband who will mention Scripture when it applies to life, to bring my focus back on the Lord throughout our day. Someone who inspires me to be a better Christian. And I want to be that to him as well. I want a partnership in the Lord, two walking together following Him, forming that 3-stranded cord that is not easily broken. A union that is pleasing to Him, and perhaps, by showing forth His glory, drawing others to Him, or serving Him in whatever way He would lead.
There are many reasons I would like to marry. But - being united in the Lord in a relationship that will strengthen each of us in our walk and draw us both closer to Him - THAT is now my main desire. Right now, I can't think of a better reason.