By Stan Leffew
How well I remember those taunting words.
"They told me to take a streetcar named Desire, and then transfer to one
called Cemeteries and ride six blocks and get off at Elysian Fields."
Where on earth is my "play on words" taking me with this one?
New Orleans, Streetcars, Marlon Brando, Vivien Leigh and a film steeped in
controversy and symbolism.
What, you may be asking, does the Tennessee Williams screenplay of "A
Streetcar Named Desire" have to do with lifetime relationships?
I'm glad you asked. The answer may surprise you.
When the character, Blanche, made the above statement, although full of
symbolism, her message was clear.
She had been on the "desire" streetcar long before ever arriving in New
Orleans, and it had only taken her to a life of bewilderment and death
(Cemeteries). Elysian Fields was the supposed place of "paradise" she so
longingly sought. As the movie progresses, you soon discover that where this
streetcar had taken her was anything but paradise.
Have you ever been on a streetcar like this?
Are you on it now?
Think about it!
The fires of passion and sex burn hot in the world around us. Chasing desire
seems to be a common theme in the world today. Music videos, the Internet,
TV shows, movies, magazines and books often have one common theme, the
feeding of desire.
We have made sex more about recreation than about relationship, and
heat-scars abound as more and more get caught in the web of deception that
chasing desire creates.
What, you may be wondering, is a "Heat-scar"?
- Children disillusioned by parental infidelity - Heat-scar!
- Teenagers and College students buying into the craze of "Girls Gone Wild" actions being where body dignity is found - Heat-scar!
- The lonely and heart-broken housewife struggling to find intimacy and
measure up to the blonde bombshells of her husband's pornography enthusiasm
and addiction - Heat-scar!
- Women struggling to be valued by our culture as more than sex objects -
- Men struggling so much with the strongholds of lust and desire that they
can't walk by a display of magazines without feeling the tug - Heat-scar!
And then along comes someone like me stating, "It is better to be wanted for
a lifetime of nights and not just a night of a lifetime." Along comes
someone like me extolling value in the marriage union. Along comes someone
like me with a message that "turning-on" may be elevated over and over again
in the world around us, but "tuning-in" is where it is really at.
"Tuning-in" to the longing of the human heart for intimacy.
"Tuning-in" to the longing of the heart for companionship.
"Tuning-in" to the longing of the heart for love, acceptance, compatibility
This is why I often say that a suggestive music video may awaken desire, but
it does nothing to satisfy the cry of the heart for intimacy, love,
acceptance, compatibility and oneness.
How about you? Is your focus in life and relationships more about
"turning-on" or "tuning-in"?
Your answer may determine if you, too, are in danger of being burned by "A
Heat-scar Named Desire."